Almost all the people I know have been in a relationship with the opposite sex at least once in their earthly sojourn. Some come out with flying colors and live happily ever after, others have a successful relationship for some days to a couple of years and then break up, and there are others I know who fail at the very threshold.
Is there a formula that could be replicated to have a successful platonic relationship?
Who am I kidding? If there was a formula we would all have lived happily ever after. But then there are a lot of books on the subject about practices that could work. The fact that there are so many of them in the market suggests that people buy them religiously and stock them. I suppose in an hour of need they just open chapter (???) and read what to do to handle situation- ###, trust in the solution given, and apply it praying to the author in their minds. Do they have a book for cheating husbands and "snakes", enabling them to juggle between the legal and the sly courtships. I should certainly check out, because most men/ women seem to be successfully handling that.
For the most part the secret is finding the right person, once you get the right person I guess everything falls into place.
Who is the right person? You never know, hence the trial and error method of courtship. Well what if the right person lives on another continent altogether? I guess thats why we have match.com, eharmony and the likes of them... Cupid is smart enough to find his way across continents.
This makes me think of the "arranged marriage" system in India, wherein the parents, siblings, uncles, aunts, cousins, relatives,second cousins, friends, neighbors, community members, third cousins, and third cousins' cousins and may be someone who would have seen you just as you were born, who remember you pooped in your diaper when they met you once and nothing more find your ideal match for you. I am shocked that sometimes the system works, at others it crashes miserably ruining lives and desperately shaking up families. It's not rare to find a report in Indian newspapers on a bride killed /committing suicide, as a result of the atrocities inflicted on her.
Is there a "love guru/ relationship pundit" who could fix that? Marriage counselors, I have heard. They work as well or better than the books because of the personal involvement element in the process of reconciliation. I doubt how many rural Indian women have the option of using a counselor's services, or even have access to one. It's only a very small part of India that gifts their brides glittering diamonds, the rest still go to bed sad and angry .
Well lets get back to the comedy upsetting the Indians, we all hope they do find a middle ground. We Indians take everything very seriously, lets see if the "love guru" tickles some Indian ribs.
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